Dear Ms Stein
I write this as an open letter to you in relation to your public comments about Lighthouse International Group and your endorsements of a highly (and provably) libellous article written about our company and former Chairman Paul Waugh in the Daily Mail on 20th April 2022. For your awareness, everything you are about to read here will also be published online as an open letter that’s in many ways applicable to all cult ‘specialists’ and/or ‘experts’ in relation to these matters. Specifically I am referring to comments and broadcasts in the media endorsing unresearched malignantly malevolent individuals currently waging an illegal smear campaign against us as a company, as a community, as human beings and as people with families and children. They are manipulatively and falsely portraying themselves as victims through fantastical stories that have no truth, evidence or proof to back up any of their accusations and statements, whatsoever.
I wish to focus particularly on a comment you made on Twitter (shown below), saying you felt the Daily Mail “did a good job with [their] investigation” into this article. In addition, I also refer to a broadcast on River Radio you recently did with journalist Rani Singh, a mother who has systematically abused her two sons (now in their 30’s) here at Lighthouse since they were boys and is trying to detract from this by irresponsibly, falsely and maliciously labelling our company a cult. This is along with several other malignantly toxic individuals obsessed with trying to destroy Mr Waugh and Lighthouse International, our families and our children. In this particular irresponsible and highly unprofessional tweet you have accused us of being in ‘denial’ of our imagined wrongdoing, as well as attacking and demonising those accusing us, while playing the victim ourselves and ‘ranting contradictions’.
Ms Stein, on what basis can you legitimately make such statements and pursue actions that endorse such individuals, given you have never met or spoken to Mr Waugh, nor taken up his open invitation to meet in person with you or any of your fellow cult ‘specialists’ and/or ‘experts’? Something that’s entirely unscholarly to say the least. Neither have you contacted anyone else currently at Lighthouse and neither have you ever been involved in any of our work? So how can we be anything more than a caricatured figment of your imagination when your conclusions are based entirely on secondary hearsay rather than anything first hand and real?
We have received no legitimate inquiry or questions that would constitute any attempt at any legitimate discovery from you. Perhaps you have much more of a vested interest in believing we are a cult as a means of furthering your career, rather than a healthy community (which is what we are) under attack by malignantly toxic individuals? Do you have a vested interest in getting other people to believe we and other healthy communities are cults? Is that more important to you than doing an objective assessment and finding out what the reality is? Do you and your peers so desperately need healthy communities to be labelled as cults in order to keep you in work and to gain more opportunities as a result of that? What is your interest here?
You clearly haven’t wanted to question and genuinely scrutinise your sources to find the many holes in their stories. If you had, you would have wanted to speak to us and hear the other side of this to get to the truth. Yet you’ve confidently made defamatory public comments and statements about Mr Waugh and our company, lending your name and reputation to our accusers based purely on their hearsay. This leaves your reputation open to now be legitimately questioned for legitimate reasons, something that would not be happening if you had gone about this in a much more ethical, moral and professional manner. We are surprised, not just based on your credentials, but on your age and experience in life that you haven’t learned to do this by now.
If you are willing to do the adequate discovery into us and meet the people here without prejudice, you will find we are far from being any kind of cult or ‘coercive control’ group. In fact we happen to know that private detectives have covertly gotten involved with us in the past, including members of the press and members of families, seeking to prove that we are a ‘cult’, but have come away each time with nothing at all to show that’s the case, in fact the opposite. To aid you in your discovery Mr Waugh is offering to personally invest in the financial costs of this process for you, to make it as easy and straightforward as possible. He is also in the process of inviting many more academics and specialists to speak with him on this and has announced that publicly on Twitter.
Assuming your concerns for people involved in dangerous and destructive cults are genuine, we invite you to sit down in person with Mr Waugh in a filmed discussion about the Daily Mail, its accusations against him and Lighthouse, along with your evidence you’ve based your comments on. The aim would be to both discuss this, learn from the experience and publicly get to the absolute truth of the matter, as well as to define the differences between cults and healthy communities. We would very much like to hear how you define this difference and what work you are doing in particular to help foster and develop more healthy communities.
We challenge you to find any existing or past dangerous cult or coercive control group that has gone about handling a situation like this in the way we have, so publicly and openly. In fact yourself and others among your peers writing about us online, have acted far more secretively and with seemingly much more to hide, just like cults, than we have. However, if there is anything about Mr Waugh, Lighthouse as a company, its practices, or any of our people that we have missed that is in any way ‘cult-like’, or even in danger of becoming so, then we wish to know about this in detail so that swift and necessary changes can be made to reform in those areas. As any regenerate individual, group or company, like us, would surely want to do. Or would that be killing your future business opportunities concerning us?
We have extensive material evidence that categorically disproves every serious accusation made in the Daily Mail, which we cannot publicly release to the press yet, due to data protection legislation. We can and will do so eventually, either with the permission of their sources (who, by denying such a request, only discredit themselves) or through the courts. So sooner or later you will come to see the errors you’ve unfortunately made here. Beyond that, there is also our self-evident lack of secrecy and the fact that no one here is hiding their real names or identities. Everyone at Lighthouse regularly posts online using their public accounts and we are all open to meeting and speaking with you and others like you. Doesn’t this already strike you as very ‘uncult-like’?
Compare our openness and desire to have a candid discourse with the behaviour of our assailants and accusers who, apart from those few who put their names in the Daily Mail, have nearly all hidden their true names and identities behind pseudonyms while posting thousands of persistent libellous statements against us online. To a person these people have refused to partake in any kind of open, reasonable and mature discussion, debate or arbitration with us and despite the constant and public offers from us to do so. Nor have they taken any legal action against us, despite our encouragement and many repeated calls for them to do so, in order to settle the matter legally, honourably and gracefully in court.
Those unlawfully smearing and trying to sabotage us are known malignantly toxic family members, disgruntled and resentful ex-clients with groundless financial disputes, or who are bitter because of an unrequited romantic interest here. They have no interest in anything other than trying to destroy our reputations, our lives and our livelihoods, our families and the wellbeing and safety of our children as much as possible. They would certainly not be pleased or relieved for anyone to assess and officially confirm Lighthouse International Group is not a cult. In fact, they would be bitterly disappointed at such news because of their hatred and agenda and they don’t want that to be discovered.
These people have an absolute vested interest in their falsehoods being true and for us to be somehow held accountable to these falsehoods, even though they aren’t true. Because of this they mock, scorn and literally dogpile, gag, try to frighten and persecute anyone expressing positive views about Lighthouse and their good experiences here. They have between them created thousands of defamatory, vile, racist, bigoted and profane posts in a dedicated anti-Lighthouse forum that are all but completely negative, while hidden cowardly behind anonymity. Something that has seemingly been completely missed by yourself and the likes of you Ms Stein. If there is any cult involved here it is those attacking us, their online cult and the ringleaders you’re now complicit with and supporting; including their physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual and sexual abuses. People and families don’t need to be part of a cult to be dangerous and for you to support such dangerous and abusive people and families, cult or no cult, is a very dangerous business for you to be in.
Whether you were aware of this before or not, you have either been duped or been wilfully complicit in these malignantly toxic family members and their co-conspirators’ constructive sabotage of our lives and business through their narcissistic smear campaign. Either way, you are associating with people we can prove to have highly malevolent and vindictive histories as well as present actions and motives towards Paul Waugh, Lighthouse International and its people for reasons very far from noble or good. Any comment or association with these people will certainly age very badly, as it already is and significantly, as well as seriously harm your future career and legacy. As already stated, you’re now in public collaboration with Rani Singh, a mother who has inflicted life-long abuse on her sons and a Mr Jon Breen, who has displayed frighteningly obsessive and pathological behaviour towards Mr Waugh and Lighthouse online. Mr Breen, who operates online as @Educofirebird (Twitter) and u/throwawayeducovictim (Reddit) amongst others, has also (like you) never met anyone at Lighthouse. He is purported to be a pathological stalker who’s online behaviour aligns with this. He alone is personally responsible for over 1,500 maliciously false posts about Mr Waugh and Lighthouse across various platforms. To compound this, there is a very concerning website we were sent about Mr Breen by someone else who has apparently also been obsessively attacked by him; www.JonBreen.info.
Mr Breen and Ms Singh represent exactly the pathology in people that those at Lighthouse, like Ms Singh’s sons, are trying to get away from in order to overcome and heal from the damage and traumas of the past they’ve suffered. Are you and your fellow ‘experts’ or ‘specialists’ not interested in speaking to them and listening to their accounts as well? Why is what happened to them so easy to dismiss and on what basis is that not gaslighting? The testimonies of these brothers and many others with them were completely snubbed by the Daily Mail in the information we submitted to them before the article that’s now been categorically and comprehensively debunked in our dedicated website lighthouseinternationalgroupdailymail.com.
We’re currently demanding 45 main points and 154 sub points of evidence from the Mail in regards to their article, which they are yet to provide reasonable and tangible proof for at all, despite them coming back to us saying they’re trying their best. They will not find it though because it does not exist. You cannot find evidence for what is false unless it’s contrived. Ms Stein, you said the Daily Mail have done a ‘good job’ investigating us but what evidence of an investigation do you have? Please show us any proof of that investigation because such an investigation would have legitimate facts, facts that are true and real. The Daily Mail have no such evidence precisely because they have done no ‘investigation’. Their article is purely ‘he said / she said’ trashy journalism. There is no investigation here and if you have any proof of that, in the public interest, to show that such an investigation has been done and the facts portrayed are indeed a result of that investigation, then please let us know. But we know there will be more silence here by virtue of the fact there was none.
It’s wonderful that, despite having suffered directly at the hands of an abusive cult yourself, you have wanted to use your experience to help and support others who have and are being abused, coerced and manipulated by similar individuals and groups. We greatly encourage and support such work. However to equate our company and us as people, as families with children, who are a completely open book with the kinds of groups you’ve mentioned in podcasts, such as the ‘Children of God’ cult, is mind-blowingly unfounded, ungrounded, libellous, defamatory and amateurish to the extent it calls your own character into question. Ms Stein, either you are a career opportunist with a vested interest in the prospect of a new ‘cult’ being on the scene, no matter how imagined and false that is, because it presents a lucrative opportunity for professional profit and recognition, or you have genuinely made a mistake and been terribly deceived. We urge you to have the humility to admit where you have got things wrong here and take us up on our invitation to meet.
Should you choose not to engage in an open, honest and civil conversation with us, even with Mr Waugh’s investment and support, we must ask you to retract and renounce any and all comments and statements you have made against Mr Waugh and Lighthouse International, pending this matter being settled in court or otherwise. Along with this to publicly apologise for having deliberately tarnished our reputations and damaged our livelihoods and the security of our families and children. Failing to do this will unfortunately leave us no option but to start the process of holding you legally and publicly accountable for libel and defamation, with the appropriate damages your irresponsible statements have made directly and contributed to through others.
No response from Ms Alexandra Stein is a response! Shocking at the lack of responsibility from a research fellow at London South Bank University (UK). No discovery, but bold accusations that are false and damaging.
This is so needed in a world full of one-sided, baseless opinions. If you say you are an authority and expert, then back those credentials up by being responsible with them. To form an opinion, you should look at the facts and do your due diligence, otherwise, it’s not based in reality, because the full perspective and understanding of a situation aren’t taken into account. This is research 101, nevermind PhD level of seeking answers to inform your conclusion.
The question remains, why has the invitation to meet and discover more been ignored?
Miss Stein..my “rant” was full of contradictions? I challenge you to name one! You are very quiet now! Why? Classic unprofessionalism ..you say you don’t like the Daily Mail ok? From what we have seen from you so far is that you would be right at home as a journalist of the Daily Mail! Maybe you don’t like the Daily Mail because it’s all too close to home? Come and meet me..us? Come meet my family, my life partner and my children. Come meet my friends and greater family. Ex clients? How many 10? 100? 200? ..
In our increasingly malevolent and malignant world; to have unbiased professional experts, that victims of outrageous abuse and slander can turn to for support, truth seeking, and ultimately an acknowledgment and acceptance of reality – has never been more needed.
I was deeply shocked to see how this has not been the case with Ms Alexandra Stein as outlined in this very well written article.
For a person to state that the Daily Mail had done a very good job in relation to the critical article about Lighthouse International Group, without any further discovery to balance hearsay is so unbelievably unprofessional!
So, I asked – what the gain was for Alexandra Stein through this blatant and reprehensible bias? Did the truth not suit her vested interest, and so she chose instead to resist pursuing a balanced professional investigation. Ultimately, this decision lacked the crucial integrity needed for the role she has taken in society as a care-agent for the vulnerable in humanity, within her specialised field.
This is a vital realisation to consider moving forward when assessing so called experts in their field. Highly qualified does not necessarily equate with honour, integrity and sound character and competence.
This letter is brilliantly to the point! I pray and hope for Ms Stein, for the sake of her career and her work through all her pain and suffering from escaping the hands of an abusive cult that she will do the right thing and properly discover to find the FACTS and take up the offer that Paul Waugh & Lighthouse International Group has kindly offered to support her in her discovery. We need proper professional, objectively balanced cult experts! So I hope that Ms Stein rises to the occasion for herself and many others!
What strikes me is the open, honest, transparent willingness to want to learn, to heal and to be shown the areas that are cult like in order to address and heal in those areas! This is sooo uncult like! As stated to you Ms Stein, “you have wanted to use your experience to help and support others who have and are being abused, coerced and manipulated by similar individuals and groups. We greatly encourage and support such work.”
For Ms Stein to have confidently made defamatory public comments and statements about Mr Waugh and Lighthouse, lending her name and reputation to the toxic disgruntled family members and accusers based purely on their hearsay is very very weak and shaky ground for Ms Stein! Thank you Lighthouse for setting the standard and posting this publicly as this is applicable to all cult ‘specialists’ and/or ‘experts’ in relation to these matters! I hope and pray for Ms Stein, and all involved to seek the righteous path as this effects many people’s lives! X x
Given all the praise and recognition of Alexandra Stein’s work, I was actually very surprised to read her comments online. I say this, not because of her opinion, but the way that she came to her opinion! To be a PhD requires a huge amount of dedication and is the highest academic accolade. In addition to this, I really appreciate the fact that Ms Stein wants to help others avoid mistakes that she’s made. The biggest issue I have in this situation is that she’s taken a lazy and biased approach; taking the Daily Mail at face value combined with believing those with a hateful agenda against us.
Her comment indicates she did not investigate our extensive response through YouTube videos and articles. I don’t know what Ms Stein’s idea of a ‘good job’ is when it comes to the Daily Mail’s coverage is, but when the paper is challenged to back up 45 allegations consisting of 154 statements (https://lighthouseinternationalgroupdailymail.com/daily-mail-demand-for-proof-evidence-of-accusations-statements/), then her standards seem either incredibly low or incredibly biased. If Ms Stein had taken the same attitude towards her studies, then I really doubt she would be a PhD. I very much hope she doesn’t advise her students to base their academic or professional opinions on a tabloid newspaper and what a couple of their mates say. Assuming she doesn’t encourage such practice, then bias would need to be the answer as to why Ms Stein would make such a statement about Lighthouse.
In our discussions as a team it hit me that Ms Stein and others of her ilk are all opportunists when it comes to looking at groups. The more they label organisations, communities and any form of group as a ‘cult’, then the more they gain in terms of opportunities, profile, significance etc.
This is not to say there aren’t coercively-controlling groups out there, but they predominantly continue to exist because of the following reasons;
1 Most people did not get the physical, emotional, mental spiritual upbringing to be prepared for life.
2 As human beings we seek meaning and purpose, but most people lack this in their lives because of lacking a complete upbringing. The primary reason for this through neglect and/or abuse by family.
3 The existing circle of influence (family, friends &/or colleagues etc) are unable to help with finding meaning and purpose.
Ironically our work at Lighthouse is about helping individuals and families to get a complete upbringing in order to lead healthy and meaningful lives. I would love Ms Stein to take up Paul Waugh’s offer because of what everyone (us, her, cult experts and the wider public) can learn through such a discussion.
A very well-structured and clear letter, thank you. The point is clear that any statement made ought to have been backed up by evidence, through thorough investigation, which it was indeed not. Because of this, it puts people in vulnerable situations where they will need to be held accountable, Alexandra Stein being a case in point here. I hope she will meet with you and make any points to reconcile, understand, repent for what she’s done here, and make amends where needed, this letter clearly gives her the opportunity to do so. And I hope this serves to help others in these situations. Thank you.
This is such a brilliant example to learn from in holding people to account who have the intent, seemingly so, to use the suffering of others for their own gain. The fact that this happens is sickening, yet a great example of standing strong in the face of tyranny and those who intend to destroy.
Something which I personally took from this, and has brought me some inner strength, has been sending this to someone who claims to be an expert. I have spent a lifetime being fearful and cowering away from those who are or claim to be an ‘authority’ in a subject matter which I don’t have the knowledge myself. An intellectual surrender, believing what is said by these people because that have a certain job title or a few letters behind their name. It is a lack of inner strength and conviction in myself to question, to challenge, where appropriate.
Even in this example I question how much these ‘experts’ question their associations as I am learning to do. Particularly with the named John Breen someone who is viciously and violently smearing and has smeared so many others. From what I understand his smearing has resulted in several police inquiries to say the least.
I have even seen this when it comes to family in myself, which again, not just this letter but following and being attacked as part of Lighthouse has been a huge investment in finding my voice and stand firm in the face of tyranny.
Thank you to all who have been a part of putting this together and facing what is necessary to hold these people to account. This is such a powerful example and education for all who are facing tyranny either in this situation or with their personal lives. I hope all who read this can learn, get the help needed and grow in their inner strength also.
Ms Stein I have read your comments online and the lack of legitimate discovery that was done and I would very much like you to meet Paul and respond to Chris Nash’s open letter. Why? Because all over the world communities are suffering under the hands of ‘cancel culture’ and being labelled as cults. I read the warning signs on your own website and the first thing you say is a cult has the ‘Total and Only’ answer. If this was the case with us we would not be inviting you to come and talk to us. Also if you look at the videos from the Waugh Rooms on YouTube… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pzVUcnGGoJE&t=1269s What you will see is Paul apologising a number of times. Why would a cult with the ‘Total and Only’ answer be doing that? On a final note Ms Stein, I don’t know why you ended up in a political cult – I hope you will tell us sometime; but the need for healthy communities to help people overcome their damage is more important than ever. I hope you will learn more so that you can help others find the truth and the support they need. To be very clear on the matter – liars and those who support lies in the name of truth will suffer consequences – both natural and legal. Here is a chance to help those who really need it.
Thank you for writing this letter. Much evil is committed in the name of good, and we all ought to equip ourselves against it, understand that we can question it, and learn how we can challenge it.
It is absolutely necessary for us to have the platform and ability to share the truth. To shine the light on what is a very dark, wholly one-sided, and blatantly false narrative, based on the malignant agenda of our toxic online trolls.
Furthermore, beyond looking after our own private interests, this letter enables others in similar situations to learn from our experiences. To let those being trolled know they can work through this, they are not alone. And there is a groundswell of their brothers and sisters in Christ here to back them. We can build ourselves and our lives back through holding our abusers and their accomplices accountable.
Thank you for writing this open letter and showing the inherent problems that exist when so called experts don’t actually do any discovery and just go on hearsay. I’m actually shocked by Ms Stein’s comment In relation to the Daily Mail article when she didn’t ask us any questions.
She’s just taken what they have presented as the facts and has believed the lies of a Jon Breen who has never met anyone here either. I really appreciate highlighting the conflict of interest too when those who have a vested interest in describing an organisation as a cult then will label it as so. I really welcome Ms Stein to make amends and to take Paul up on his offer to meet so that she benefits from understanding the facts and we can learn from any insights she has as to how we can improve!
This is an exceedingly well written and clear letter. The responsibility of a doctor or an expert is paramount as their opinion is relied on by so many, unfortunately sometimes blindly. Their standard for intellectual critique, questioning and challenge ought to be far higher as a result as they need to make sure that their information is the best, most accurate, most challenged and most up to date it can be. It is disappointing to see that hasn’t been the case in Ms Stein’s. I would gladly sit down with her and give her the other side, indeed the only side of any evidence or proof.
I really hope this letter can be used as an example for so many on how to stand for truth and what is right with fairness and respect. You are exposing the lack of credibility in claims that have been made, whilst giving every opportunity to come together and make things right!